Assgasm: A Complete and Comprehensive Guide

It’s not the sort of thing they go into detail about in health class. Assgasms sound crude—maybe by intent, but the experience itself is anything but. Who doesn’t want to achieve orgasm in new and exciting ways? 

That’s what is on the menu here. Here’s a fun fact about ass play—many people are a little hesitant to try it, but those who do rarely look back. In this article, we take a look at how you can assgasm. 

What is an Assgasm?

It's not dinner table talk, that's for sure. In simplest terms, it is an anal orgasm. Yes, they are possible--both for men and women. Surveys have indicated that up to 20% of cisgender women report having achieved anal orgasms without clitoral stimulation. The rest prefer a combination of both. Men achieve anal orgasms much more easily thanks to their handy little friends--the prostate.

Assgasms, as the internet might like to call them, are neither taboo nor obscure. While many of us aren't often found discussing our anal sex habits, behind closed doors it's happening--both with consistency and mutual satisfaction across males and females.

A survey put out by FiveThirtyEight (yes, the same organization known for its in-depth and very accurate election forecasting) indicated that 100% of men and 94% of women reported having reached orgasm the last time they participated in anal sex. For context, that same survey indicated that only 64% of women report reaching orgasm during vaginal sex.

Now, the sexual encounters in the anal survey did not exclude vaginal stimulation--one should never exclude vaginal stimulation--but they do nevertheless reflect an under-reported fact of life. Most people really like some well-timed ass play.

The physiological explanation involves the rich network of nerve endings concentrated in the anal region. This sensitive area, when stimulated properly, can trigger intense pleasure responses throughout the pelvic region. For women, this stimulation can indirectly affect the internal structure of the clitoris and G-spot area through shared nerve pathways.

The psychological component plays an equally important role. Many find the taboo nature or the vulnerability required for anal play creates heightened arousal that intensifies the physical experience. This mental engagement often contributes significantly to the reported satisfaction rates.

Proper preparation makes all the difference in these experiences. Relaxation, communication, ample lubrication, and gradual progression create the conditions for pleasure rather than discomfort. Those reporting positive experiences typically emphasize these elements as essential to their enjoyment.

How to Make Ass Play Work For You--as a Giver

If you're giving anal pleasure, communication is the first and most important step. Surprises are nice for birthdays--not assholes. Make sure that your partner is comfortable and fully on board. Remember that in the world of consent, anything other than yes is a hard-stop no. While anal pleasure isn't the exotic or taboo topic some might think it is, not everyone is on board yet. You need to let your partner discover the pleasures of their own ass in a timeline that makes sense for them.

From there, slow and steady--very, very literally--wins the race. You'll want neither the depth nor tempo of vaginal sex for this enterprise. It's a tighter and more sensitive area of the body we are talking about here, and that requires a more delicate stroke.

Proper preparation significantly impacts the experience. The giving partner should invest heavily in lube. Water-based lubricants work well for most situations, while silicone-based options provide longer-lasting slickness but shouldn't be used with silicone toys.

Position selection matters considerably for comfort. Beginners often find side-lying or receiver-on-top positions allow the receiving partner greater control over depth and pace. These positions naturally reduce muscle tension and allow for easier relaxation.

Pay close attention to your partner's non-verbal cues alongside their verbal feedback. Breathing patterns, muscle tension, and subtle movements often communicate important information about comfort and pleasure levels that might not be verbalized at the moment.

How to Make Ass Play Work For You, As a Receiver

It's really a matter of the same rules applying but to the extent of your liking. You still need to communicate and make sure that your partner is good with working your ass. Consent, of course, goes both ways and never falls out of fashion.

From there, it is finding your comfort zone. You might like to discover your anus in private. That's ok too. Actually, it may be the best avenue available if this is a first for you. Masturbation is always a good way to learn more about your likes and dislikes and to see about adopting new behaviors in the bedroom.

Relaxation becomes your most important tool for enjoyable experiences. Tensing makes penetration uncomfortable or impossible, while conscious relaxation of the sphincter muscles allows for pleasurable sensation. Deep, steady breathing helps maintain this relaxation throughout the experience.

Starting with external stimulation before any penetration helps acclimate your body to these new sensations. Many find that circling the area with gentle pressure creates arousal while allowing muscles to naturally relax before attempting entry.

Using appropriate toys designed specifically for anal play ensures safety and comfort. These toys feature flared bases to prevent complete insertion, smooth surfaces for comfort, and appropriate sizes for beginners. Starting small and gradually increasing size over multiple sessions often provides the most pleasurable progression.

Combining anal stimulation with other familiar pleasurable activities can enhance the overall experience. Many receivers find that adding clitoral or penile stimulation during anal play creates more intense sensations and helps maintain arousal and relaxation simultaneously.

Conclusion

It’s something to at least try. Ass play is popular for a reason. It’s fun and fun is (probably) good for your health. If you want to explore the world of anal delight in private at first, you can find willing and interactive masturbation aids on HeraHaven AI.

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